Embracing the Joy/Challenge During Christmas

Yessss, Christmas complete with sparkling lights, cheerful carols, and those deep, often conflicting, emotions that seem to surface this time of year. It’s easy to get caught up in the expectations of family gatherings or kids activities. Don't allow consumer-driven or busy distract you from the beauty of Jesus. Yes, some moments can be messy, complicated, and downright hard. Remembering the reason why we celebrate Christmas is the start. Emmanuel. God is with you- always. And he’s with you right now. If that’s where you find yourself, breathe, you’re not alone.

Let’s reframe and embrace the reality that this HOPE is with you always. Here are practical steps to honor the tension and lean in to the peace only God can bring- if you are feeling that:

Feel It, Name It, And Move Forward into God's Promises

Joy and grief often sit at the same table during this time. Instead of shoving aside the hard stuff (either by concealing, controlling, or coping) take a moment to acknowledge and name what you are feeling. Is it sadness? Longing? Resentment? Joy? Name them and bring those feelings to God right away. He knows what you are going through, so don’t hide. Surrender all these things that are on your heart and mind. God gives us hope even in our grief.

What you can do: Set time aside to reflect. Write down what you’re feeling, and then thank God for being present in it all. He’s doing something in and through your life right now. Trust him. Don't leave Christ out of Christmas. Really.

Set Boundaries, Don't Aim For Perfection

Let’s stop pretending we have to make everything flawless. God is the only perfect one. Remember that your worth isn’t tied to how “perfect” things look or how you look (family photos anyone?). Also, healthy boundaries. Whether it’s saying no to hosting another event or stepping away from tense conversations, so you can live at peace with others. God empowers us to take off our old selves and our old way of thinking and CHANGE. We can live a new way of life.

What you can do: Let your “yes” be “yes” and your “no” be “no.” Be intentional and think through what this looks like ahead of time. Prioritize what is Biblical. Decide ahead of time where your limits are. You don't have to say "yes" or "no" to everything.

Create Space for Grace

Family gatherings or unrealistic expectations can bring out the best and the worst in us. Especially when pressure is applied. Stay aware of your thoughts and reactions. People may say things they shouldn’t, or old wounds might resurface. Instead of trying to fix or control the room, ask God for the grace to love people and also remind you of the grace you have received. Remeber who you are in Christ. You are different - you are meant to stand out to those who are lost, confused, and desperate for Jesus.

What you can do: Choose to bring HOPE everywhere you go. It could be a kind word to a difficult relative or a silent prayer for patience before you respond. Everyday you choose to be in God's will for your life. Grace isn’t about ignoring the hard stuff. Choose to align yourself with God's word.

No matter what, God is present! And that truly IS the best present. I pray that you wouldn't be distracted as we end the year. I pray that you would be anchored in hope and that you would sense the genuine joy of Christmas. In every single moment and he is with you. As you move through this season, hold both the joy and the struggle in your hand and surrender it to Jesus, who wants to and is able to carry it all. Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas season!

Embracing the Joy/Challenge During Christmas