Quick Reminders From a Christian Life Coach

I woke up feeling sad and lonely. There. I said it. Yes, I get sad and lonely too even though viewing my life, from the outside, would not warrant for sadness and loneliness.

This is how I would have reacted to these emotions a few years ago: be in my feelings for way too long where it affected my days, weeks, months (or worse my identity), shove them to the side, or dismiss them and then move on with a new day (only for them to reappear with a stronger vengeance).

I would never have shared this publically, years ago, because of the shame attached to it and the fear of how others would view me. How can I do it now? Because I've given my emotions the role they were supposed to have and I no longer attach them to my idenetity. I'm not a lonley and sad person - I'm God's kid who is feeling lonely and sad right now. I'm not an anxious person - yes, I may have anxious feelings, but God's word says I can be anxious for nothing and I trust him to work it out with me.

I talk a lot about self awareness because it is the beginning of understanding yourself and what God may be doing in your current. In coaching, it's the start of getting curious about yourself. If you aren't aware, how can changes truly be made? If you don't embrace humility, there won't be a reason to better yourself. It isn't the end all but it can be a light bulb moment for you.

And it's the start of CAPTURING YOUR THOUGHTS. A critical discipline and practice for the believer. This doesn't just happen on it's own. It is INTENTIONAL.

Don't magnify or minimize what you feel

Don't magnify your emotions so much that they take the lead on your identity, reactions and responses. But don't minimize them because they are your helpful INDICATORS and a gift from God. They reveal what is most valuable to you. Each emotion serves a different function and purpose and affects you in different ways. Emotions can also motivate us towards godliness and obedience or away from them.

Emotions divulge but they don't define. They divulge by admitting and confessing what's in your heart and mind. They don't define, meaning affirm and confirm your identity. You only give God that authority in your life.

We are all going through something

We all have up and down days. Often when I speak with people who are REALLY in the ringer of life- they will say, but I know other people have it worse than me. Yes, this is true for all of us, and that should broaden our gratefulness but it doesn't mean what you are going through is unimportant. It is still important. YOU are important. And healing through what you are going through will benefit your life and those around you. You are not alone. Healing also comes within community. It brings accountability, comfort, etc. If you don't have a community yet, I would start within the church.

Acknowledge, capture, bring it to God

We acknowlede often but will skip the intentional work of aligning a thought with God's truth. "Wait, but does God say that about me?" "Wait, but this doesn't match up with God's character." "I'm thinking this but God's word says THIS to be true." The "work" isn't fancy. It can be messy. And it takes practice. But commit today to set the gaurd over your mind! When a thought comes in- ask yourself- is this from God? Or is this from the enemy? There aren't many options.

And INVITE GOD INTO IT. I cannot stress this enough. God WANTS to help and be in relationship with you. He wants to remind you of who you are and who he is. He doesn't roll his eyes when you approach him. He sees you as his daughter or son- he wants to be around you. He wants to listen to you. When you invite God in, you give him persmission to work. Don't tie his hands. And in doing so, your faith stretches more, and your trust in him grows.

Never underestimate declaring a scripture over yourself, no matter how repetitive it is or juvenile you may feel. If it's the price of pride, I think it's worth paying for the destiny God has for you in the future. If you need to get it in your spirit- then get it in your spirit!

When you become self aware of the emotions you are feeling, self aware of specific negative talk or thoughts, self aware of how your body is responding, self aware of "this is how i'm interpreting what someone did to me." You are able to take a step back, think things through and align with God's word, and trust him in the process.

Just some quick reminders from a Christian Life Coach. I wanted to share this because we never see the full picture of someone's life. My hope is as I am vulnerable with you, you will be able to be vulnerable with Godly people you trust so you can make lasting progress in your life!

There is SO much to talk about when it comes to emotions. If this is a topic that interests you- let me know and I would love to pull together something to resource you.

And here is what spurred on this post ☝️. If you need to process through some emotions or thoughts or need guidance on taking thoughts captive, I would love to connect with you. You can always book a discovery call to see if we would be a good fit with one another for future coaching.

Keep growing!